Information for families and friends (carers)

Information and resources for families, friends, supporters and kin who are supporting a person living with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or emotional dysregulation.

Who is a carer?

The term "carer" encompasses anyone who voluntarily supports someone living with borderline personality disorder (BPD). This includes biological and non-biological family members (such as parents, grandparents, children, and extended family), spouses, partners, friends, and other supporters.

You might not consider yourself a "carer"—perhaps you simply feel you're doing what anyone would do when they care about someone. However, mental health services may refer to you as a carer, and this information is provided to support you in that role.

Understanding BPD and its impact

Everyone's experience of BPD is unique. Similarly, the experiences of living with and supporting someone with BPD vary widely. Some information may not resonate with you at this time, and that's okay. We encourage you to explore all the resources provided to find what is most helpful for you.

What can I do to support someone living with BPD?

There are a variety of skills we can learn to respond to the person living with BPD in way that supports healthier relationships.  Click on the links below to find out more.

Yesterday I had a moment that would normally have ended in tears for both my daughter and myself. Instead, I utilised what I had learnt, listened without judgement, and came from a place of acceptance. Having support, guidance and education is the key to living with this challenging disorder.

Past training participant — Lived Experience Carer