Information for families and friends (carers)

The term carer refers to the diverse range of relationships of those who support someone living with BPD in a voluntary capacity. It is inclusive of biological/non-biological family members (parents, grandparents, children and extended family), spouses, partners, friends and supporters.

You may not identify yourself as a 'carer', rather feel that you're doing what anyone would do when you care about someone else. However, mental health services may refer to you as a carer. This content is therefore provided for you. 

Everyone’s experience of BPD is different. Likewise, experiences of living with and supporting a person living with BPD are also extremely varied. Some information may not resonate for you at this time therefore we encourage you to explore all resources provided.

It’s best to check and ask the ways people wish to talk about themselves and their experience of BPD. People living with BPD may sometimes perceive well-meant comments as being judgmental and minimising their struggles.  Criticism, sarcasm or blaming may harm relationships. Relating to someone in a calm, curious, non-judgmental way and focusing on strengths tends to be the most effective approach.

There are a variety of skills we can learn to respond to the person living with BPD in way that supports healthier relationships.  Click on the links below to find out more.